Effective Parenting Tips; Staying Positive

We are left with a week before our country exits the COVID-19 Circuit Breaker. Measures will be progressively lifted, and the resumption of activities will be carried out over three phases, beginning with Phase 1.

We must be adaptable to make many adjustments and changes in our lives to stay within the constraints of the imposed movement restrictions. The war against the pandemic is far from over and we need to continue to persevere. So it is important to be mentally strong and continue to stay postive.

Everyone is excited for Phase 2 but we must not be too complacent. Stay strong and be safe!

Effective Parenting Tips; Make Communications a Priority

Have you heard the news? I bet you have! We are happy that the government have move towards lifting some of the restrictions of the Circuit Breaker today!

This is definitely a step towards returning to our normal lives, albeit a new normal. However, we are still not fully out of the woods yet, and we should continue with our initiatives to stay safe.

So, today we would like to share the 6th and final poster of the WHO parenting tips, which is on the importance of good communications with our children. Our children want and deserve explanations as much as adults do. We should make sure our explanations and expectations are clear. If there is a problem, describe it, express our feelings in a positive manner and invite our child to work on a solution with us.

Hope the following tips are of help. Meanwhile, continue to stay safe and stay home!

Effective Parenting Tip; Keeping Calm and Managing Stress

As our Circuit Breaker continues till 1 June, we would like to share more about parenting tips on how to stay calm and manage stress.

Managing stress is a big concern for families who are stuck at home for prolonged periods. Remember to stay calm with your children. Your children will look for you for support and reassurance. Accept how they feel and give them your comfort. Hope the tips help.

Meanwhile, stay home and stay safe!

Effective Parenting Tip; Bad Behaviour

Bad behaviour is a common topic for children.

Today, we like to focus on the common issue of children sometimes behaving. The parenting tips we like to share will certainly help to lessen the frequency of instances of trepidation whenever our children exhibit bad behviours.

Helping shape your children’s behaviour is a key part of being a parent. Children learn by watching everyone around them, especially their parents. When we use good manners and positive modeling behaviours, we will teach our children to do the same.

Effective Pareting Tip; Structure Up

Working from home gets REAL when kids are added to the equation.

We are giving you parenting tips on the importance of having a proper structure when planning out your daily activities with your children. Having structured and well planned routine are beneficial when interacting with children especially the younger ones.

A daily structure helps with managing the spontaneity of active children and by doing so reduces our stress levels. Make sure that your structure has different meaningful routines, well spaced out with plenty breaks so that you won’t over exert yourselves.

Have a blast creating fun routines while you Stay Home!

Effective Parenting Tips; Keeping it positive

As we are heading to the extension of the circuit breaker, we continue with our sharing on Parenting Tips. This time the parenting tip is on being positive with our children. We have to keep on looking for something positive each day even if some days we have to look a little harder.

The great Mahatma Gandhi once said:

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. And keep values positive because your values become your destiny”

Effective Parenting Tips; One-on-One Time

We are already in our 4th week of circuit breaker which requires us to continue to stay home. Under such circumstances, we understand that frequently our patience gets tested, our tempers frayed and our moods darken. This is especially so with our children.

Today, what we wish to share with you is the first of a series of meaningful posters developed by the World Health Organization (WHO) on effective pareting tips. Take this opportunity to enjoy more quality time together and create more wonderful memories with them.

Parenting styles – How do they affect your child’s personality?

Our beliefs in what is beneficial for our children determine the approach we take in parenting them. These beliefs are formed as a result of our experiences growing up and of our observation of the way other people discipline their children. While everyone wants the best for their children, do you know that your method of parenting could indirectly implicate your child’s achievements through their personality development?

Traditional psychological theory reveals four distinct parenting styles, differing only by the level of demands parents have on their children, and parents’ responsiveness or involvement in their children’s lives.

Authoritarian parents set high expectations for their children and tend to be cold and unresponsive. They expect conformity and set rules without explaining why. Children of authoritarian parents tend to be withdrawn, at times defiant, and often lack social skills.

Similarly, authoritative parents are firm in the way they discipline their children. However, they do so while displaying warmth and care for them. Such parents are known to interact frequently with their children and explain reasons for the rules they set. As a result these children tend to become more agreeable, open, conscientious, which are traits to success at school.

A third category of parents is known as permissive parents. These parents are generally loving towards their children but they provide few guidelines and rules. They do not expect mature behaviours and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. These children have learned to get their way, and tend to be immature, compulsive, unmotivated, disagreeable and have trouble relating to peers.

Finally, uninvolved parents are those that show little to no interest in their children. These are children who tend to acquire negative personality traits, lack self-control and long-term goals, and can be disobedient and easily frustrated.

How do these concepts match up with the parenting styles of Singaporeans?

While Singaporean parents are shown to prefer using reasoning rather than caning as a form of discipline in a study conducted by Singapore Children’s Society (SCS), a separate five-year study by NUS has shown that unrealistically high levels of expectations to perform could lead to children with depression or anxiety.

So, in bringing up confident children, as parents we must bear in mind to balance the need to be both involved and non-intrusive at the same time. While this does not mean that it will guarantee your child to a life of perfect personality development, it will give him/her the most conducive environment to grow up with a positive identity of themselves.

Eye Level from the perspectives of our Parents (Part 2)

This month, we share with you blogger mummy, Cherry’s experience with Eye Level Singapore 🙂

Here is an excerpt from her blog, Sweet Memoirs, on how Eye Level has developed the confidence of her boy who is currently in K2:

“I have never seen G doing some number problems before ever so confidently and enthusiastically until he started his lessons at Eye Level. Every time we come back from his lessons, he would ask me to set the timer for him while he works on his assignment to be submitted on the next session. “Please turn on the timer for me, mom. See how I can finish it very fast”, he’d proudly declare.”

Find out what else she said about Eye Level by visiting her blog, Sweet Memoirs, today!

Eye Level Training Academy (ELTA) : Maximize Your Child’s Development

“How many parents here believe that they have a complete understanding of how their child feels and behaves?”

With that, Eye Level Singapore began its very first run of our Eye Level Training Academy (ELTA) workshops, specifically tailored for parents to learn more about their children’s development. Held on 19th May 2017 at 7:30pm in TKP Conference Hall, the theme for our first workshop was entitled, “Maximize Your Child’s Development”.

Before the workshop, comprehensive notes were placed on the desks for our valued parents.

Eye Level parents were greeted by Mr Sheng Weilun, who has had 7 years of experience in the Children Enrichment Industry.

During the first half of our workshop, Mr Sheng introduced our parents to the understanding of their own children through basic developmental theories, and coached them on how to apply those theories in the real world.

Halfway through the session, parents were given a break to enjoy the sumptuous dinner and had the opportunity to network with the fellow Eye Level Parents to share personal insights and experiences of their own. Some of the parents also had the chance to speak to Mr Sheng, and other HQ Staff.

In the second half of the workshop, Mr Sheng went through tips on how to develop and cultivate self-directed learning habits – A Ministry of Education (MOE) 21st Century Competency for all school-going children.

Towards the end of the workshop, Mr Sheng held a discussion with parents, on how parents and teachers should work together to maximise the development of their children. Various exercises were also incorporated into the workshop, to allow parents to put in practice what they’ve learnt immediately. These activities challenged the parents to brainstorm and reflect on various aspects of their children’s development.

The success of this event is accentuated by the feedback we have received. 100% of the parents who attended agreed that the content presented was relevant to their role as parents, and that Mr Sheng was very helpful in bringing across pointers linked to their own children’s development. On top of that, majority said that they would be very willing to attend future ELTA parenting workshops.

Mr Seetar Krishnan, Eye Level @ City Square Mall Parent

Eye Level Singapore holds the ELTA parenting workshops on a monthly basis. You may visit our website (http://elta.myeyelevel.net) for our next workshop updates. We look forward to seeing you!